As Mother’s Day approaches, many memories and thoughts are going through my mind!! Being a “mom” didn’t come with instructions. No one told me how hard it could be or how rewarding! All I can say is “I try.” When I gave birth to my children, I can’t tell you what I expected life to be like. What I can tell you is I didn’t know I could love any humans as much as I do my children. I still have children. Even though only one is alive, my love for my son will never go away, hence, children!! Not to mention, grandchildren are now in the mix. That’s a whole new kind of love!!
My own mother has been gone over 12 years now, and what a guiding force she continues to be in my life! I miss her every day. These last almost 21 months, I know she was right here with me, talking me through the sadness, being a strong shoulder from Heaven, for she, too, had been in my shoes…twice!
I know a lot of people will post on Facebook and other social media sites that they were blessed with the best mother in the world. Well, they don’t mean to be liars, but they are not telling the truth. Know why? Because I had the best mother in the world, hands down!! She taught me more about forgiveness and acceptance of all the things we cannot change while giving me strength to attempt to change the things I could! Lord knows, I needed that these past few years.
My mother gave birth to six boys and two girls. Let me tell you, those brothers tested my mom and dad for every ounce of patience a person could possess! Yet, both parents had a sense of humor… kind of😜!! My dad had a few repetitive jokes he used over and over all us kids had to pretend we had never heard before! My mother just found humor in every day life. She let things bounce. At least she never let on things got under her skin. She taught us we have two choices: laugh or cry. Period. She reminded me a lot of Erma Bombeck. If you don’t know who that is, I highly suggest you check out her books!! So funny!! She has passed away, but her words are printed and hilarious! I believe Erma and my mother were kindred spirits!
I will tell you one thing my mother wasn’t. She wasn’t my friend. She was my teacher. She was my protector. She was my rock. She was my judge and jury of right and wrong. She was everyone else’s friend, but she was my strength. I can only hope I have some her mothering in me to pass on. I try!
I watched my mother as she dealt with the loss of two sons before she died. Living through those losses, little did I know, would be a prelude into my future!! My sister told me several times before that fateful night, that my situation with my son and his antics seemed very similar. Oh how I already felt that, even more so now!! My sister is a lot like my mother and I am so grateful for her and her presence!!
It’s Mother’s Day this weekend! For those who remember land lines, it was the busiest day at the phone company. It was also one of the largest mailing week’s for the post office. It may have come close at the florist, but Valentine’s Day still has the lead there! ❤️
My message today is, if you are lucky enough to still have your mother, call her; send her a card; buy her flowers. If you had a fight, apologize and mend the fence with the person who gave you life! If you have lost your mother, as I have, say a prayer and thank God for the blessing she was in your life! Be the person she knows you are capable of being!!
I know my mother is with me in spirit! I know she mourned my loss with me and is holding my son tight until I get there! I am not sure I thanked her enough while she was with me on this Earth, but I have a warm feeling in my heart that she continues to be there for me and my family.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms! As I have said before, don’t wait to tell someone how much they mean to you. Don’t wait for Mother’s Day to tell your mother, daughter, grandmother, sister, or friend, what an amazing mother they are!! Better than saying it, show it…every day!! You do that by being the best version of yourself!!
Enjoy your day, Mother’s!! You are special! Today and always!!
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